Mercy died, Moses needs surgery: my personal journey with grief

Mercy died, Moses needs surgery: my personal journey with grief

Today, I share a part of my story of loss and struggle.  Elaine Brenner is my guest host and interviewer as I move behind the microphone, telling the truth of my collision with death and surgery.  As I listened to this episode, I still felt the loss; there is so much more that I would like to tell or share, the ways that Mercy and Moses and pain have impacted and changed me. But I offer this glimpse into my story, hoping it will help you as you live through your own challenge or help a friend through theirs. 

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Childhood Disruption, Part 3: An Interview with Magnus Mertes

Childhood Disruption, Part 3:  An Interview with Magnus Mertes

Disruptive life events linger; they cast a long shadow.  Years afterwards, you can still be surprised by sadness or fear. Magnus Mertes knows about living with pain and uncertainty; his sister died when he was just one year old and his younger brother has needed multiple heart surgeries.  In this last episode of our series on childhood disruption, Magnus shares about how pain can bring us closer to people, what kids really want from their parents, and how a note or a song can be a powerful gift to those experiencing sadness. 

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Childhood Disruption, Part 2: An Interview with Jemima Mertes

Childhood Disruption, Part 2:  An Interview with Jemima Mertes

A hug, a nap, a kind word:  each of these actions can be really helpful for those that are going through hard times.  Jemima Mertes, age 6, shares these insights and more on this episode of Handle with Care.  Jemima is no stranger to sadness:  her older sister died and her younger brother has undergone multiple open heart surgeries.  As she speaks about her safe place, breathing techniques, and how to remember well, Jemima offers wisdom for anyone walking with a child through tumult as well as for those that support parents during times of disruption.   

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Childhood Disruption, Part 1: An Interview with Ada June Mertes

Childhood Disruption, Part 1:  An Interview with Ada June Mertes

When tragedy impacts in the life of a child, it can be difficult for adults to know how to help.  Ada June, age 11, had a sister die and a brother undergo multiple open-heart surgeries.  She shares about death, the power of remembering, and the importance of being able to self-advocate in the midst of pain.  There is wisdom here for anyone who is walking with a child through sadness as well as for those that support parents during times of disruption.    

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Suicide, cancer, and life after loss: an interview with Jasmin Jenkins

Suicide, cancer, and life after loss:  an interview with Jasmin Jenkins

Jasmin is no stranger to loss:  her mother died of ovarian cancer while Jasmin was in high school.  A few years later, Jasmin’s brother, Rory, took his life.  She shares deep wisdom from her journey towards healing for those that have been affected by suicide and loss and speaks on the invitations of grief.  Jasmin is the founder of Fall Up, a community driven platform that brings people together to navigate the spectrum of grief. 

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Death, job loss, grief brain, and gratitude: an interview with Katie Huey

Death, job loss, grief brain, and gratitude:  an interview with Katie Huey

In the span of a few months, Katie Huey’s father died, her husband lost his job, and she also found herself in a work transition.  Katie’s story begs the question:  when it seems like everything is crashing down, what can you do?  Can you learn to cultivate gratitude, even in the midst of disruption?  What is the difference between self-care and self-nurture?  And what should you expect from a work environment when things fall apart? 

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I have breast cancer: an interview with Sheri Alexander

I have breast cancer:  an interview with Sheri Alexander

Sheri Alexander works as the Chief Strategy Officer at Gregory & Appel Insurance…and she received news of her breast cancer on her way into a client meeting.  In this episode, Sheri tells her story of managing the demands of work, marriage, and parenting in the midst of fighting cancer.  Sheri shares her coping mechanism of “putting things on the shelf”, imparts a host of helpful local resources, and reflects on how she now gives support in the workplace as a result of her diagnosis. 

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What about the father? Matt & Jenny Kistler share on miscarriage, disappointment & stillbirth

What about the father?  Matt & Jenny Kistler share on miscarriage, disappointment & stillbirth

Miscarriage is all too common and it is difficult to talk about.  If care is given, it is usually directed towards a grieving mother.  Yet, what about the father?  When men are overlooked in the grieving process, what is the cost?  How can you give meaningful support to both parents?  In part two of the series on miscarriage and infant loss, Matt and Jenny Kistler share their story.  

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Miscarriage, stillbirth, and post-traumatic growth. An interview with Rachel Pritz

Miscarriage, stillbirth, and post-traumatic growth.  An interview with Rachel Pritz

In 21st century America, it is easy to assume that every pregnancy results in a happy, healthy baby.  Yet, as many as one in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage.  The path through infant loss is complex; how can you support someone well?  In the first of a two-part series, Rachel Pritz discusses miscarriage, stillbirth, and post-traumatic growth.

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My father died: lessons in navigating loss and creating cultures of caring. An interview with Gale Nichols

My father died:  lessons in navigating loss and creating cultures of caring.  An interview with Gale Nichols

How can you create cadences of care within your organization?  What does it look like to have everyone invested, actively supporting hurting employees?  Gale Nichols works at the Kelley School of Business and she played an important part in my own story of loss.  Gale shares about the death of her father as well as how she created a culture of proactive care in her role as the Director of Student Services and Global Programs. 

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I had a breakdown last night: working while anxious and overwhelmed. An interview with Drew Kincius

I had a breakdown last night:  working while anxious and overwhelmed.  An interview with Drew Kincius

Responsibilities at work, stress about money, anxiety manifested in physical ailments, what happens when the pressure reaches a boiling point?  Drew Kincius talks about the scary night when it all became too much, when he tried to walk into traffic. His journey towards stability, with the help of his community, offers perspective to people on the edge of overwhelm.  If you work with or care for someone coping with anxiety, this episode is for you.   

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My husband had a brain injury: the challenge of long-term disability. An interview with Bess Malek-Maiorano

My husband had a brain injury:  the challenge of long-term disability.  An interview with Bess Malek-Maiorano

In a moment, everything can change.  A traumatic brain injury dramatically altered life for Baher Malek, a software designer, and his family.  Bess Malek-Mariano speaks about the exhaustion of providing long-term care, the shock of injury, and the challenge of embracing long-term disability.  Listeners gain perspective and actionable tips on how to help those coping with the reality of extended care for someone that is not going to get better.

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Podcast Trailer: How loss affects your workplace and why empathy matters

Podcast Trailer:  How loss affects your workplace and why empathy matters

Grief costs American businesses upwards of $100 billion dollars a year.  This is a staggering number.  As an employer or a manager, how you help (or ignore) employees in crisis has a direct impact on your bottom line.  The trailer of the Handle with Care podcast unpacks this data and frames how you can help employees survive, stabilize, and thrive in the aftermath of disruption. 

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We are adopting a child: an interview with Beth and Andy Long

We are adopting a child:  an interview with Beth and Andy Long

Adopting a child can be a long process, full of waiting and hoping and so much paperwork.  Friends, family, and coworkers can be unaware of the stress and high emotion involved.  Beth and Andy Long share the story of bringing Drew from the forest of the Democratic Republic of Congo to Bloomington, Indiana and the hardest six months of their lives.  In that story, they reflect on how people supported them well, the dangers of work/home compartmentalization, and the bravery it takes to create change in a workplace culture. 

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